I'm addicted to Glee lately. They sing cool songs. By cool I mean, songs I know, famous and they give it a twist.
I could not help but really smile when I saw this earlier on the 12th episode. This song was introduced to me when I was a girl in the gutter in 2008. But now, no more. It just makes me smile wider hearing a crazy song and why you should not be lingering on depression. lol. Enjoy.
Showing posts with label Letting Go. Show all posts
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How to get rid of an ex. [one of the best articles I read on this matter!]
| MAU-RK! Mabuhay kayo. how to get rid of an ex |
i should not be writing this but i must. i am not a mobile person, and I keep on forgetting my mobile phone, and when I got home I saw a message asking this question. HOW TO GET RID OF AN EX?
Well first and first foremost, let us go back to the basics. Let us draw the principles of an EX(may it be lover or something else). The basic definition of an ex is:
The prefix ex- first appeared in English words in the Middle English in words borrowed from French. It comes from the Latin where it was both a prefix and a preposition. Later in the Middle English period it became a productive prefix. It is akin to Ancient Greek (εκ-, εχ-, εχω-). Its meaning ranges from
- 1. "out, away" (example (exit)
- 2. "up" (abstract meaning indicating increase or strengthening of a particular quality, often negative - sometimes called intensive) (example (exaggeration, exacerbate)
- 3. "former, prior" (examples (ex-boyfriend, ex-president) This is a much later development and did not exist in Latin.
-wikipedia.org-
So for the basic sense of the word it is a former. So how would you get rid of the former MAU? Hmmm, hold your horses guys and gals... hooo. The simple answer is WE CAN NOT! And please dont laugh... tell me how can you get rid of something you can not see? But please be reminded that this is only applicable to those normal cases... it is a case to case basis. and if you have a different scenario, please contact Joe D' Mango or Dr. Love, I could not help you. Or maybe I could but it might take ages before I could brew a perfect formula.
But if you're question is how to forget an ex, or maybe how to eradicate her/him out of your routinary semi Pentium 1 system. Here are some things you could do.
keep your thoughts sane, rearrange your room(if you have one), by doing this you could see a different point of view. Its like reformatting your Operating System in your brain, by rearranging your room please dont forget to take things that would remind you of your ex. Please be reminded you are taking things that reminds you of your ex not because you antagonizing or your angry. ANGER is the last thing you want to feel while your doing this.
If you dont want to that, here's another tip, pick up a new hobby, change your lifestyle , do something that you have never done before. Collecting Garbage and recycling is a healthy habit, its something I am certain we dont normally do, by doing this we change not only our life but the mother earth's life span. Okay, if your thinking I am being silly then take something that you have never done before. BUT REMEMBER DO SOMETHING FOR THE BETTER. IF it will end you up in a MENTAL ASYLUM or JAIL then please don't do it. A diversion of attention can make a great difference
Fine you still feel lonely and helpless, then here's another option. Go make friends, or get reunited with past friendships, or relive your Former childhood "BARKADA" bonding moments. Just be certain of something, that your not placing your ex as an excuse to use the time of these people. Because if you do your only placing yourself in a circumstance where you are living life for a shadow of a non existent FORMER. and if you are on your low moments you are vulnerable to unnecessary temptations. AND I KNOW YOU DINT WANT TO DO THAT. Well if you want... then ITS UP TO YOU... JUST DONT COME BACK TO ME OR TO YOUR FRIENDS IF YOUR IN ANOTHER SH*T. Remember your ex is not your oxygen, you can live without him/her by your side. Its a habit of seeing or being with her/him, and all habits can be break. Hard...but it is possible.
And if everything doesn't seem to work, and you still feel that you love/ need that person. Then Gamble a little more. Push Your limits until you could give no more. Its like a diarrhea, when you dont have anything more to give then that's it.. no matter how you try, thats it. No more. Its like trying hard to puff a smoke from a cigarette left only with its filter, and that's it. But there is no harm in trying though. But dont push hard when it says pull. Learn to stop when you see RED. it means your bleeding .
okay, I will not include the thing about looking for a new relationship. change is a constant thing. Its part of the cycle. it could and might happen. one way or the other. DONT FORCE TO UPLOAD A NEW PROGRAM TO A system that is incompatible. it will never run..
the bottom line is this... no matter what we do the only time can tell. we can never forget someone who was part of our life, no matter what, they exist in the past. no matter how good or bad the relationship is, you would remember them one way or the other.
lesson number one, we can not get rid of an ex... they are already gone. lesson number two, to move on out of a relationship is create change. lesson number three, do some diversion. lesson number four reunite within people. lesson number five dont push when it says pull.
and for the major rules...the only way to move on is watch the clock/calendar... only time heals all kinds of wound. there is no best remedy for longing but wanting... but wanting is superficial feeling. we just created this force because we got used to this feeling that we are being needed.. and we needed that other person. but after the break up its all wanting...
not love itself but the habit of being there.
oh well i guess i made a lot of circles, and i made my point clear. just imagine... if i replied through text message it might have cost me so much.
loving and losing is part of the deal.. nobody said its easy.
darkmau
MALAYA!
-from the man in the fridge-
I refuse to...
This is an apt description of what I have gone through, going through! shet! nung binasa ko to parang, yikes! nabasa ata ng babaeng ito ang aking pinagdadaanan... heheh..
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I refuse to I refuse to wait for you any longer. There was a time in my life when I would have saved myself for you alone. In my heart no one else would do. I belonged to no one else but you. That isn’t me anymore. My heart finally caught up with my brain and I finally saw that all of it was just nothing but fantasies. Dreams that only I wanted. There was no hope left for us. As each day passed, it became clearer to me that it was never meant to be. We were never meant to be. I refuse to live in the past. What we shared lives in the past, it doesn’t control me any longer. Don’t get me wrong, I will forever treasure it but I won’t let it hold me back. I won’t let it ruin who I was and who I am now. For a time, I almost forgot who I was without you. I’ll never let that happen again. I won’t ever lose myself again. I refuse to fight anymore. For several months now, I’ve been fighting. I’ve been fighting for our friendship and for us. However, no matter what I do, I seem to be losing. Whenever I feel as if I’m going to buckle down because of the pressure, the thought that somehow maybe you are fighting for us too kept me going. But months have passed, I haven’t heard from you. Somehow I finally realized that I was the only one fighting for us. I was doing everything I could possibly can for someone who was and never will be mine. I refuse to believe that you didn’t love me. Somehow, someway, I know that I have a place in your heart. You may not have been able to love me the way I wanted you to love me but I know that even for just a second, you really did love me. I refuse to lose hope. It may not be you. It may take me forever to find him, but I will. Tears have been streaming down my cheeks for too long but not anymore. I have learned so many things from all this. Things that I felt should have been taught to me some other less painful way but somehow I don’t regret it. It made me stronger. It made me look inside myself and really see who I really am and not who I thought I was. Hope kept me going. The hope for better things to come, the same hope that one day I will finally be over you.
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I refuse to I refuse to wait for you any longer. There was a time in my life when I would have saved myself for you alone. In my heart no one else would do. I belonged to no one else but you. That isn’t me anymore. My heart finally caught up with my brain and I finally saw that all of it was just nothing but fantasies. Dreams that only I wanted. There was no hope left for us. As each day passed, it became clearer to me that it was never meant to be. We were never meant to be. I refuse to live in the past. What we shared lives in the past, it doesn’t control me any longer. Don’t get me wrong, I will forever treasure it but I won’t let it hold me back. I won’t let it ruin who I was and who I am now. For a time, I almost forgot who I was without you. I’ll never let that happen again. I won’t ever lose myself again. I refuse to fight anymore. For several months now, I’ve been fighting. I’ve been fighting for our friendship and for us. However, no matter what I do, I seem to be losing. Whenever I feel as if I’m going to buckle down because of the pressure, the thought that somehow maybe you are fighting for us too kept me going. But months have passed, I haven’t heard from you. Somehow I finally realized that I was the only one fighting for us. I was doing everything I could possibly can for someone who was and never will be mine. I refuse to believe that you didn’t love me. Somehow, someway, I know that I have a place in your heart. You may not have been able to love me the way I wanted you to love me but I know that even for just a second, you really did love me. I refuse to lose hope. It may not be you. It may take me forever to find him, but I will. Tears have been streaming down my cheeks for too long but not anymore. I have learned so many things from all this. Things that I felt should have been taught to me some other less painful way but somehow I don’t regret it. It made me stronger. It made me look inside myself and really see who I really am and not who I thought I was. Hope kept me going. The hope for better things to come, the same hope that one day I will finally be over you.
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Doing something right
Last night I believe I did something right.
I evacuated all my things from the x's house.
It was soooo painful mind you. I had to go through taking all things that i thought was mine and left things that was his.
The most painful of all... Andie was with me. She was so cranky last night that I thought she knew what I was doing. All through the night I was in his house, Andie was crying. Well, I guess that is a part of what I have to endure when Andie will grow up.
I talked to his cousin. She said Andie is kawawa... I beg to disagree... She will never be. In fact, when she is older I would say she'd agree to what I have done.
;) Moving on? I guess so.
I evacuated all my things from the x's house.
It was soooo painful mind you. I had to go through taking all things that i thought was mine and left things that was his.
The most painful of all... Andie was with me. She was so cranky last night that I thought she knew what I was doing. All through the night I was in his house, Andie was crying. Well, I guess that is a part of what I have to endure when Andie will grow up.
I talked to his cousin. She said Andie is kawawa... I beg to disagree... She will never be. In fact, when she is older I would say she'd agree to what I have done.
;) Moving on? I guess so.
Letting Go
Letting Go |
| by Shirley |
| There's nothing but the good country surrounding me. The moon is shining brightly over the tree tops and its reflection on the water is such a beautiful sight. This is a perfect place for two people who are in love ... As I sit here thinking about all the time I have wasted, just sorting out my life -- I never really realized what loneliness was until you were gone. It seemed as though things were going so good until one day you left without a single trace. All of our plans for the future were shattered. There was to be no more of you and I together. You were gone, gone forever. I still remember the times we shared, but slowly these memories are going too. One day they'll be gone just like you ... I'm trying desperately to find you and bring you back to me. I dream about you every day and pray that you'll come back, but it's hopeless. There's no use in pretending, cause deep down in my heart I know you've found another. Someone to take my place, someone who'll love you -- but never like I loved you. And even though you've found another, I'll be true to you, even though you've asked me not to ... My life seems so meaningless now. I'm useless - why was I ever placed on this earth? What purpose do I serve? None, none whatsoever. People tell me that another will come along and take your place, but where is he? Who is he? Sometimes I feel like giving up on life, on love, on everything, but I can't. My spirits won't let me. I must go on - with or without you. The things that ever really meant anything to me are gone - vanished - never to come back to me again. All I have left now is my dignity, but slowly that is slipping away too ... I have to get a grip on myself -- I can't let this get me down. Life must go on. Maybe it's good that the memories are going, maybe then I can go on with my life as meaningless as it seems now. I don't hold it against you because you left me. It's like they always say, "Let him go and if he really loves you, he'll come back to you." But it's not that simple, now is it? The only way to having true love is to realize that someday it may be lost. Believe me, I realized that a long time ago ... The funny thing about all of this is if you were to come back - I actually don't believe I would take you back. I don't deserve such pain and torture. If you left me once, you could do it again ... Goodbye, my long lost love - maybe we'll meet again some day. |
Letting God...
I have fought many times for my love. But I guess dadating ka rin sa point na tama na. Suko na. Nagpapakatanga na. Matagal na akong tanga sa kanya... Honest. Ang daming kaibigan ko ang gusto akong sabunutan... Eh sa mahal ko yung tao eh... Wala kayong magagawa.
Heto galing sa isang kaibigan. Salamat!
Heto galing sa isang kaibigan. Salamat!
After A While
After a while, you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
And company doesn't mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts.
And presents aren't promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats
With the grace of God, not the grief of a child,
And you learn to build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans,
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight
And after a while you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure ...
That you really are strong
And you really do have worth
And you learn and learn ...
And with every goodbye, you learn.
By Veronica A. Shoffstall
